FEELING ‘NOT GOOD ENOUGH’
“We are only not good enough compared to a fictitious image of perfection in our mind. Nothing more.”
You cannot hate yourself into a you you can love. Even though I know this, I sometimes still fall victim to my own negative thinking. I’m sure you can relate. We’ve all been there. We all have bad days and moments of self-doubt.
I was scared to start my own blog. And even now that I’ve taken the step and I’m in it, for better or for worse, I’m still scared for at least a little bit, every day. I’ll have moments when I believe I’m not smart enough, not productive enough, not talented enough or competent enough to make this work, no matter how much I want it. I am scared that I might fail and look stupid.
I’ll be loud and chatty in social situations, then go home and the little voice in my head shouts at me about being too loud, talking too much and generally being annoying.
These are feelings of, “I am just not good enough.”
We put so many barriers in front of ourselves and other people. We’re too old, too unfit, too fat, too short, too tall, not pretty enough, not confident enough, too poor or we live in the wrong place. We are all waiting for some mythical perfect point in our life when we’ll have a booming career and a nice house, married, healthy and conventionally fit, and all the while we are waiting for that to happen life passes us by.
More often than not, we compare ourselves to those we feel have already reached these “accomplishments”. We’re an obsessive icon-type of culture, so we want to be like other people. When I find myself having comparison thoughts, I try to remind myself that someone else definition of success doesn’t necessarily have to be mine. I’m always seeking to understand what “success” means on my own terms and view my own life through that lens. God has designed us for a particular purpose that is different from the other person. Therefore work in your “time zone.”
I think it is important to always remember that life will always be a series of challenges, take each one at a time and learn its lessons. Celebrate the little ‘wins’ and don’t stress about the little failures. Be proud of yourself. You are far wiser than the mistakes you’ve made. You are far better than the moments you wish you could do differently. You are worth more inside and out than you give yourself credit for. All of us are.
You are good enough!